If You Have A Child, You Must Know The Fact
Child development and what we have to do
Yes, It’s a known fact that 90% of mothers think that if their child eats a lot of food, that means he/she is healthy. Everything is fine as soon as they eat a whole bowl of food. They have no idea about physical and mental development.
However, if enough time had been spent on the child’s intellectual and mental development without spending so much time feeding, the crime rate would have been much lower. But no, the problem is that these cannot be explained to mothers.
It’s much more important to eat regular home-made food without wasting money on unnecessary puree, cereals, food powder, or oats. It hurts a lot of mothers. Come on, “you don’t know anything, old-fashioned, judgmental” with these words.
In our society, mothers think that a child becomes a human being simply if they spend all their labor and money feeding the child. On the other hand, Fathers think that a child becomes a ready-made successful person only if he spends a vast amount of money and gives it to a well-known school.
If so, whose children are involved in crimes such as kidnapping, murder, and even rape nowadays? Why has everyone become so mechanical today? Why are parents leaving their children in old-age homes? Why are you failing to provide security to your child at home today?
Why did he see in front of his eyes how many more bad things happened during Corona’s time? Why are we becoming so inhumane?
Have you ever pointed the finger at your family and asked yourself, how much have you taught your child about human qualities, manners, good and evil? How much quality time are you giving to your child? I know it would not be acceptable to hear. So without further ado, let’s talk about the normal development of a child.
The beginning of development is in the womb:
Surprisingly, the mental development of the baby actually starts in the mother’s womb. The sound of the mother’s voice is felt from the womb. The mother’s emotional turmoil affects the child’s brain development, leading to the child’s restlessness, delays in speaking, aggressive behavior, and emotional development.
This requires a pregnant mother to eat, rest, sleep as well as think well for peace of mind, read books, listen to music, have the sympathy and good behavior of everyone in the family.
Development according to age:
After the birth of a child, the sign of its first development is to recognize the mother and give a social smile. It usually goes away in 6 to 7 weeks. If it doesn’t appear even in 3 months, that means there is a problem.
Then, within 3 months, the baby will start looking back and forth with neck control. Also, if you talk or make noise, a 2 months baby will listen carefully. He/she will learn to keep an eye-contact. If you don’t see these even after 5 months, you will understand that you have to take a doctor’s advice.
At 4 months, the baby will make a bubbling sound, try to grab whatever is nearby. After 5 months, if the hand does not move or fists, it must be understood that there is a problem.
At 6 months, a baby will learn to sit with the support of a pillow, try to look for sounds, take a ball or a toy in one hand, put it in his mouth. He/she will make sounds like aa, e, u, ba, or da da.He/she will look when called by name. All this should be done in 6–7 months.
At 9 months, a baby will learn to crawl, try to stand up slowly. He/she will play more with the toy of his choice, point with his finger to ask for something. He/she will start making two letter sounds. Peak-a-boo will be fun.
At the age of 1, the child will be scared when he sees a stranger, will cry when his/her parents leave the house, will learn to clap. Besides Mama, Baba, Dada: he/she will also learn to say some more words. He/she will be able to walk, drink water from a cup, learn to salute. Also will try to find hidden things. Even then, if the child does not learn to sit or stand, consult a doctor.
15–16-month-old baby will be able to walk on his own, learn to say no. Be able to show your nose, ears, eyes. He/she will be able to eat with a spoon, learn to climb the stairs, and learn to run slowly.
In 2 years, the child will learn to speak 2 words like, give it, eat rice. It can climb stairs. Will be able to show pictures in books, will like to listen to rhymes, will be able to cut long lines in the notebook. Also, he/she will be able to throw balls. Learn to recognize colors and shapes. Be able to play with other kids. Even then, if a child cannot talk or walk, he must see a doctor.
In 3 years, the brain is developed. At this time, the child can say his name and age. Learn to say sentences in three words, for example, tell me; I’ll go out. Learns to ride a tricycle, can say rhymes. He/she can run hard.
Keep in mind here; all child development is not the same. Girl child development is fast; in some cases, it is hereditary; if someone in the family speaks late, the child also speaks late, and the last word is to stimulate or encourage him/her to teach.
Now, what is the job of parents?
The baby needs to be given enough time to develop. You have to talk to him/her; you have to tell rhymes. You have to teach to recognize the picture with the picture book. You have to teach him to write and draw with a pencil and paintbrush. You have to teach him different shapes and colors with toys.
What should be done so that the child is not stubborn, restless, and disorderly?
You have to be a role model in front of the child. Never do arguing, fighting, lying, misbehaving with others in the family. The child needs to be taught the value of time to organize his tasks into a routine throughout the day. You have to teach him/her to do his/her own thing and help others in their work.
Never forget that a child cannot be compared to another child; you have to explain that you will be rewarded for listening without arguing. You have to take him/her to the open nature outside; you have to show the environment.
Never try to feed with TV, laptop, mobile. Do not use these gadgets continuously. Don’t get addicted to chocolate, chips, fast food, and teach them to distinguish good from the bad. Teach him/her to respect the elders and to caress the little ones.
And the important thing is to teach bad touch, where to touch the body is terrible. Teach him/her about right-wrong, not take something from strangers to eat or go with.
Older children must memorize their parents’ names, addresses, and mobile numbers. The biggest critical period is “puberty.” It is time to be as friendly with them as possible, give them time, understand them, and understand them with patience. If necessary, you have to explain their changes, take expert advice.
So you have to give time and effort to make a child a human being. Just looking at filling the stomach does not end the responsibility. There is no alternative or shortcut to it.
If you experiment with making a baby a guinea pig in the name of maintaining the status quo with age, then one day, you will get the results hand in hand by living a lonely life alone in the old age home, believe it or not.
